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How are men and women different when it comes to Cybersex?

Although there are some strong similarities between men and women in the way that they view cybersex (e.g., both view it as a way of hiding physical appearance), there are important differences.

  • Young (2000) claims that women prefer cybersex because it removes the social stigma that women should not enjoy sex, and allows them a safe means to concentrate on their sexuality in new, uninhibited ways.

  • Men prefer cybersex because it removes performance anxiety that may be underlying problems with premature ejaculation or impotence. (Young, 2000)

  • Men are more likely to view online pornography, while women are more likely to engage in erotic chat. (Young, 2000)

  • A profile of very severe problems exists for 1% of users and 40% of these extreme cases of dysfunction are women (Cooper, 2000)

  • Women tend to desire cybersex in the context of a "relationship" rather than simply viewing images or text (Carnes, 1991; Cooper, Scherer, et al., 1999).

  • Schwartz and Southern showed male cybersex abusers were more likely to engage in sexual compulsivity or be labeled a sex addict.

  • Male cybersex abusers were likely to be older than female cybersex abusers (i.e., middle-aged).